My boyf swears at me and calls me an f**ing c**t all the time whenever we argue. is this acceptable?

i love my boyfriend but whenever I do something he finds upsetting, he starts blowing up and calling me an f**cking c***. even when im not looking to argue, he'll just blow up before I even get a chance to talk things through. and when he does something out of order, and I tell him, he does the same shouting and swearing. it really hurts. i don't swear at him and say horrible things when we argue. I always just want to talk through issues. but he won't let me, he just says im impossible. When i want to discuss things, he doesn't want to understand me. he just swears at me. Like, when I tell him I don't want his female friend down the road inviting him alone to smoke with her. Especially cos she's seeing a married guy. Like when I tell him its out of order she texts and call him at all hours of the morning. He swears at me and says im a jealous *****. friends say I'm right to be upset but he doesn't see it.

My boyf swears at me and calls me an f**ing c**t all the time whenever we argue. is this acceptable?
You're completely right to be upset. If this was something that happened once or twice in really major fights and he apologized later, or if you were calling him equally nasty things, I'd say let it go. But for him to call you this on a regular basis over any minor disagreement is disrespectful and totally unacceptable. You need to have a serious talk with him. Explain that it's very hurtful for him to call you that name and you want him to stop. Do this at a time when you aren't arguing about something else. Hopefully, if he really cares about your feelings, he will make the effort to stop. If he immediately gets defensive or acts like he isn't doing anything wrong, you need to seriously consider whether you want to stay in this relationship. If he calls you this even when he knows it upset you and can't stop doing it over the most minor things, it seems to me that he does not respect you or care about how he makes you feel. That's not the kind of relationship you want to stay in.
Reply:well the way i was brought up no thats not acceptable at all everybody gets mad and says things they dont mean but thats to much you can do better like me for example lol just kidding
Reply:leave him! you deserve much better. bad physical relationships always start out verbally and then turn physical. dont take that chance
Reply:There must be a typo---shouldn't it instead read MY EX BOY-friend.








He needs to be in your rear view mirror as you drive away from this failed, maladaptive relationship.
Reply:only in the bedroom and only if it is ok with you. otherwise no way. find someone that will appreciate you. I do have to say though I love talking nasty in the bedroom. both her and me. tim
Reply:I think you know the answer. It is pretty obvious! Leave his A.. and don't look back